The odds are stacked against you. It’s 9-to-1 that you won’t change. That’s not a made-up internet statistic (85% of statistics quoted on the internet are made up on the spot. Really.) That statistic comes from research on patients diagnosed with heart disease, cited in the book Change or Die by Alan Deutschman.
These patients were told the truth of their situation. They were given clear, do-able steps they could take to increase the length of their lives. For them to not change was to choose an early death. And yet, 9 out of 10 never made the change. Deutschman’s book goes on to look at the 10%, the ones who did make the change. How did they do it? What set them apart?
In the last post, “Change Your Life? Then Find These 3 Things” I summarized the three necessary elements that lead to real and lasting life change. Today, we’re going to dig into the first of these. Deutschman labelled it “Relate.”