And now onto the last myth in this series: Myth #5. Ignore your emotions and they will just go away.
This is the myth that does the most damage. The body count is enormous—marriages ended, relationships broken, churches split and destroyed—all because people with influence were unwilling to stop and look at the uncomfortable emotions they are feeling.
It’s no mystery why this happens. Our culture has trained us that emotions aren’t trust-worthy. Men have been told since boyhood that showing emotions makes them weak. It only gets worse if you’re a Christian: If you believe that emotions aren’t Godly, that all they do is lead you into sin, that showing emotion makes you shallow, then what choice do you have?
So, we practice denial. We change the subject. We take antacids for the clenching in our gut and anti-depressants for the sadness in our spirits. We treat our negative emotions like the symptoms of a cold, medicating them into suppression so that we can get on with our lives.
But it doesn’t work that way.